As mentioned is our singles tips introduction, ladies can generally expect a barrage of responses to their singles profiles or personal ads. With this in mind be prepared for a lot of attention and far more contacts than you could possibly imagine. :)

When you first start communicating with a person, the tone should be light and fun. Have a look at the persons profile and reply with topics of common interests based on what you find in the profile.

Honesty, courtesy and respect are your main traits to keep in mind when replying to contacts. If after reading a contacts profile you feel you don't have all that much in common or you are not attracted to the person let them know in a honest, courteous and respectful manner. As hard as it may be to say "thank you but no thank you", you need to respond to your contacts quickly as you can and with a definite answer.

During the initial weeks of contact avoid pouring out your soul, the woe-is-me topics, and definitely avoid details of ex-partners and all their infinite faults. When you are trying to get to know someone new, ex-partner conversations are a HUGE turnoff! The person who contacted you is focused on getting to know you as a person, and is not looking to be immersed in the torid and undulating history about your ex-partner(s)! :)

In your replies, avoid personal issues and personal topics such as, financial problems, health issues, or stories about your marital and family problems. These sensitive and personal topics will tend to ward off most men in the initial stages of the email relationship. As you get to know the person a little better and your online friendship, mutual trust and respect grows you can then begin to introduce topics of a more personal and delicate nature.

If you find you are receiving to many responses to your singles profile or personal ad there are a couple of easy ways you can limit the flow of contacts form an out of control burst water main to a manageable trickle of quality suitors.

Firstly, you can amend your singles profile or personal ad to be very specific as to who and what you are looking for. If this doesn't have the desired effect most singles web sites allows you to hide your profile from other members either on a temporary or on a more permanent basis. Once you have caught up on your replies and you are still looking for Mr Right you can then make you profile public again.

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